The talk 🧘🏽‍♂️

It's everyone reading this piece that would have seen that quote that talks about 'the power of silent people'. I can't really remember how it goes, but the point of it is how strong it can be to give silence as an answer sometimes.

Amazingly, i have not seen one too many quotes that talks about how people should have conversations that matter. The point is, most times we need to talk, we need to vent out the anger, we need to say it the way we feel it. Personally, i haven't witnessed a situation where silence solved any issue.

These days, we see so many broken friendships, relationships, families and what ever involves two or more individuals. Mostly, we'd notice it's just because they can't stand each other anymore, but the truth is there must have been a fault in communication before anything could crash.

December last year, i stopped talking to my very close friend because i thought she was being too dramatic. It took me a while to realise that i didn't actually have a conversation with her about her attitude that I wasn't comfortable with. I knew that it probably wouldn't yield a positive feedback but i had to try at least because the friendship was worth it. So i texted her and i told her how i truly felt. it took her almost a month to come around! Truth be told, i was pissed that it took her that long but i knew it was just her being her.

So my point is, not every conversation will make you feel comfortable, it might not even turn out the way you want it to, but when you know that you need to get your feelings out there just to save the people that you love from slipping away then i don't think you should hesitate. If having to talk will save you from the heartbreak, disappointment, and whatever, then you should say it just how you feel it. Talking will bring you clarity, freedom, understanding. 

Even if it isn't the result or reply you want, at least you'd know

So today, i urge you to chose your feeling over the fear of not wanting to know what that talk will result to.

"They can't fix it unless they know,
you can't heal unless you're honest"

With love, Aminullah.